Sorry all, but I liked the HIMYM Finale…
Sorry all, but I liked the HIMYM Finale…
My emotions are fresh, and my heart is feeling particularly attached to a group of fictional characters so humor me as I pretend to be a television critic. Yes, this contains spoilers. I just watched it an hour after the West Coast (Fairbanks problems) so I’ll safely assume most anyone reading has already watched.
The series finale of How I Met Your Mother was not what I expected. At all. After marathoning 8 seasons of laughs on the couch with my husband in the bitter months of the Fairbanks’ winter, I was eagerly awaiting a drawn out episode of Ted’s initial meeting and marriage to his lovely wife and their happily ever after. I was awaiting the whole crew’s happily ever after. Ted to Tracey. Marshall to Lily. Barney to Robin.
It wasn’t quite happily ever after. Actually it was kind of heartbreaking. And a little too real. Yet, that’s what made it perfect.
1. Ted and Robin divorce. We spent an entire season preparing for their marriage and then they get a divorce. It felt like a bit of a slap in the face. Until you realize that, that happens. People spend years preparing for a wedding and a marriage that inevitably fails. I glanced at a few reviews saying this completely ruined the development of Barney and Robin’s characters.
Uhm. Not really.
They’re both really selfish people. Through all nine seasons. Once they get married, we of course want it to perfect! But their characters are still selfish. Robin is career, not family orientated. Barney is still absorbed with his affluent, bachelor lifestyle. That didn’t go away before they got married, and it wasn’t about to go away after.
2. Marshall hates his job. This struck a chord in my own heart because of my own personal fears of hating the long term job I get stuck in. But that also happens. People hate their jobs for years and years. That doesn’t make them bad people or less accomplished because they didn’t “follow their passion”. Obviously he provides for his ever growing family and does what he needs to do to be happy when he’s home with his family.
3. They all lose touch and slowly grow apart. This one is sad. Devastating really (can you tell I cried through the whole episode?). But all of us can picture people throughout our lives we were once as close with and now consider strangers. It’s part of life. Certain people only need to be in your life at certain times. Sometimes those people come back for solely the “big moments” as Lilly puts it. Sometimes they don’t. That’s life.
4. Ted’s wife is dead when he’s telling the kids the story. Sob. Sob. Sob. But also real. Don’t take moments for granted. Obviously Ted never did. From the minute he met the gorgeous, goofy bass player he fell madly in love with her and loved her with everything he had up to her dying day. I think that’s a beautiful love story even if we all want to hate it. I do wish we would have had more time to mourn her awesome character, but we did only have an hour to see what happened to all of them.
5. Barney has a baby with a stranger. Again. With two play books, I think this was bound to happen eventually. Robin couldn’t change him, but a baby can.
6. Ted’s kids realize the whole story is to point out how much Ted still loves Robin. Sorry Robin/Barney shippers, or Robin and anyone besides Ted shippers, but first loves run deep. Deeper than deep. People remember their first kisses, their first loves. Just because feelings always exist doesn’t mean they don’t love the one they meet and marry even MORE. I think it’s unrealistic to think Robin and Ted getting together again is impossible or as many on Twitter liked to call it – an April Fool’s Joke. The man spent six years alone raising his kids and was nostalgic for one of the first women he’d fallen in love with. I don’t necessarily think it’s going to be an epic love like what he had with the mother of kids. It’ll probably just be a mutual, loneliness-avoidance kind of love. But is that so wrong? For Ted to be happy again, in whatever manner that may be, after the loss of his wife?
One of my favorite tweets to sum the episode was simply: Life is messy. Life IS messy. How I Met Your Mother was a ton of laughs for nine seasons, but always fairly messy. It showed a group of friends go through life’s ups and downs. The series finale stayed true to that theme.
Personally, I thought the ending was pretty darn legendary.
“It was at times a long difficult road. But I’m glad it was long and difficult because if I hadn’t gone through hell to get there, the lesson might not have been as clear. See kids, right from the moment I met your mom I knew: I have to love this woman as much as I can as long as I can, and I can never stop loving her, not even for a second. I carried that lesson with me through every stupid fight we ever had, every 5 a.m. Christmas morning, every sleepy Sunday afternoon, through every speed bump, every pang of jealousy or boredom or uncertainty that came our way, I carried that lesson with me. And I carried it with me when she got sick. Even then, in what can only be called the worst of times, I can only thank God. Thank every God there is or every was or will be and the whole universe and anyone else I could possibly thank. That I saw that beautiful girl on that train platform, and that I had the guts to stand up, walk over to her, tap her on the shoulder, open my mouth and speak.”
— Ted, How I Met Your Mother