22 Things I Learned At 22
22 Things I Learned At 22
1. If I let the weather dictate my mood, no matter where I live, I turn into a relatively grumpy person. Embrace the rain and the cold and the snow. Without them there’d be no autumn colors or flowers or green landscape or holiday feels or snowmen or skiing. All good things.
2. The client is always right, even when they’re dreadfully wrong.
3. If men are crabby, they need food or sleep. I had a roommate’s mom tell me this in college and it has surprisingly been one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever received.
4. How to lift and do Crossfit.
5. Homesickness is the strangest ailment in the world. I catch a scent, or hear a song, or begin watching a show and suddenly it hits me like a ton of bricks and I’m transported back to a moment in time. Whether I’m a small child, or a recent memory from one of my weekends home from college, I am temporarily in tears and wishing for it all to come back. And then it passes, and I’m fine. I have started to wonder if this only grows worse your entire life, or if it’s just because I’m currently 3,000 miles away.
6. To quote Ben Affleck’s Oscar speech, “[Marriage] is good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with.”
7. The less I drink hard alcohol, the better I feel. In contrast, the more I drink wine, the better I continue to feel.
8. Holding unto my youth as a married, young twenty something doesn’t require partying frequently. It does require a lot of laughter at really nerdy jokes and finding joy in really simple things, like a trip for gelato or a short hike in the woods. It also requires listening to lots of music and foregoing podcasts. It requires regrettable decisions along the lines of eating too much pizza, staying up too late on weeknights, and spontaneously fostering someone’s massive black lab that sheds and slobbers gallons.
9. Vacation days do not require taking an actual vacation.
10. But a vacation spent with a group of great friends is worth all the money, stress, and anxiety it took to plan. Ten fold.
11. I connect more with my spirituality on mountaintops than I ever have in a church.
12. If we never go hungry, without electricity, or without a vehicle…we’re doing just fine.
13. I can afford anything I want, if I sacrifice all the other things I want.
14. Planning in the military is comical. Learn to be flexible (even if I have to cry first).
15. Keep in touch with good friends, even if they make it hard sometimes. It’s worth it.
16. Kiss my husband every day. Even twice a day. And say I love you equally as much. There is never enough time.
17. FaceTime my nieces as much as possible because no matter what kind of mood I’m in those silly, sweet babes put the biggest smiles on my face. Their moms are pretty great, too.
18. The things my mom spent so much time nagging me about were all totally true – drink more water, take your vitamins, workout your arms, do the dishes and laundry every day or as often as possible, clean up the mud you track in the house and the crumbs from breakfast, ice cream soothes the soul after a bad day, love is worth the sacrifices, etc.
19. Attempting to eat healthy with a man who can eat absolutely terrible foods and never, ever gain a single pound is frustrating. Take deep breaths. Practice self control. Dump ice cream on his head. Whatever it takes.
20. “I’m sorry” is important even when I’m always right. It’s even more important to leave off the “always right” part when saying the actual apology aloud.
21. Having a career has been the most gratifying part of the past year no matter how tedious or frustrating work can be. Knowing my degree was worth it, helping my clients, and watching campaigns/projects I’ve planned or implemented succeed has been so rewarding. Paychecks don’t hurt the cause either.
22. Complain less, give thanks more.
“I don’t want to look back in five years time and think, ‘We could have been magnificent, but I was afraid.’ In 5 years I want to tell of how fear tried to cheat me out of the best thing in life, and I didn’t let it.”